tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518721847478228439.post5842796086595458676..comments2024-03-27T02:30:45.263-05:00Comments on Mod Vintage Life: My Heart is DeadNita Stacyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13833196166679983378noreply@blogger.comBlogger195125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518721847478228439.post-91398162185914042013-08-07T22:00:57.254-05:002013-08-07T22:00:57.254-05:00I came across this post tonight... I am often alon...I came across this post tonight... I am often alone with my two kitty fur babies(my husband works out of town a lot).I see it has been two years since your Newman passed on... I love the word picture of him with your father... I hope you are holding this picture in your heart next to your memories of him... Life will never be the same but it can still be beautiful... I know this because I lost my 43-year-old son to cancer May 22nd this year. Who knew that so far down the road, Newman would still bring tears to the eyes of a stranger and love would be sent to all, especially you, who have been touched by Newman... Take care... You are loved... Patricia AnnPatricia Cowan-Wilsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08709949653271725624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518721847478228439.post-57674219972710036192012-04-30T09:46:10.312-05:002012-04-30T09:46:10.312-05:00I stumbled onto your blog and I am enjoying it so ...I stumbled onto your blog and I am enjoying it so much. I have two weenie dogs, brother and sister...but my heart belongs to my weenie, Frank (the tank) who died last October at age 10. I got these two weenies to fill the gap, but as you know, it takes time. We lost a job, our house, FRANK, and just two months ago my dad. I can relate to you in every way. Im sorry. It hurts. We must go on.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518721847478228439.post-32540397367399510842012-01-29T16:29:36.739-06:002012-01-29T16:29:36.739-06:00I have no idea how I found this blog, but I am now...I have no idea how I found this blog, but I am now sitting here with tears on my face. I am so sorry you lost your boy, they truly are angels on earth. Be well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518721847478228439.post-91122320353516413982011-09-15T14:44:19.548-05:002011-09-15T14:44:19.548-05:00I am so very sorry reading this.....we lost our bo...I am so very sorry reading this.....we lost our boy a year ago this month and our heart still mourns him.......hugs to you.....Sassyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13350876324406816793noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518721847478228439.post-81328960352254663182011-09-10T08:40:24.569-05:002011-09-10T08:40:24.569-05:00Nita, I know this is late, but I just read about y...Nita, I know this is late, but I just read about your loss. We had two dogs that my daughter took to live with her when she moved out. I loved them both dearly, but knew she needed them with her as she was single. I felt great comfort because they were with her. I was so lonely without them that we adopted another dog ten months later. She lost one of the two dogs to cancer 4 years ago, three days before my daughters birthday. She was so sad, but the other dog was still there to bring her joy. They spent all her spare time together. Almost exactly a year later, and nine days before Christmas she lost the second dog. This dog went from 93lbs to 44lbs in the year after the first dog died and the vet could not find a thing wrong with her. She simply withered away. My daughter did not think she could ever stand to get another dog, the heartbreak was too great. After about5 months ,I convinced her to go to a pet adoption fair and just look. She just wasn't sure she could do it, but went and held all the cute puppies and nothing. There was one dog in the corner that was 5 months old that had been adopted twice and returned twice. She picked her up and the dog didn't want to get down. She need up taking her and found out that this dog was born a few days after her second dog died. This dog is now two and is almost certainly the reincarnation of that second dog. She does so many things the same and has the very same personality. No wonder she was returned twice after being adopted, she was meant to be with my daughter!<br />I pray that you will once again find the joy that Newman brought you. We never know what God is planning, but you should always know he has a planAnnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02456243701525281743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518721847478228439.post-12228381937480997132011-09-10T04:42:59.995-05:002011-09-10T04:42:59.995-05:00Please forgive me for posting this so late. I am s...Please forgive me for posting this so late. I am so sorry to read this and to hear the pain and sadness in your "voice". I am truly sorry and wish I could fly on over right now and comfort you. I hope my virtual hugs will suffice.<br /><br />Take care.<br /><br />Blessings,<br />Natasha.<br />xoNatasha in Ozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17975487981963489572noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518721847478228439.post-65106066872859574542011-09-08T20:17:50.740-05:002011-09-08T20:17:50.740-05:00I am sorry to hear about this time of loss and sad...I am sorry to hear about this time of loss and sadness for you. Maybe you feel like you are drowning too. I wish you the best. The capacity of feeling sorrow and grief will equal your capacity to feel the joy and happiness. Thank you for your blog. I always look forward to reading it!Melody Thomas-Morgannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518721847478228439.post-17550523573666992532011-09-05T21:08:20.605-05:002011-09-05T21:08:20.605-05:00OH Nita!! I've fallen behind on my blog readi...OH Nita!! I've fallen behind on my blog reading and was playing catch up this evening when I came across your post. I am SO sorry to read about Newman!! <br /><br />My heart just breaks for you my dear!!! As a devoted fur mommy myself, I know how our animals are in every way, shape and form, part of our lives and family. And we have to grieve their loss just like we would any family member. <br /><br />Please don't beat yourself up! Everything always seems clearer in hindsight...but beating yourself up over all the "what-ifs" won't change a thing or help. Lean on your other dogs, who are also grieving and need you right now. Maybe you can all provide some comfort to each other to get through this!!<br /><br />I will share a thought I had about the fight...since Sally isn't normally aggressive, I wonder if she sensed something was already wrong with Newman? Sometimes animals will act out aggressively like that when they sense a "weakness". My older cat has turned on his younger brother when he was sick before...like he was "diseased", when normally they get along fine. I thought it was so odd that an animal that loves the other so much would turn on him like that, but I guess that is part of their nature. I'm sure that doesn't help any...but if you are like me, you are reliving those days over and over right now and maybe that's another perspective into the fight.<br /><br />I'm sending HUGS your way Nita!!!<br /><br />Erin.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00227925128508137750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518721847478228439.post-12700902924331818382011-09-04T22:50:14.773-05:002011-09-04T22:50:14.773-05:00Hi Nita...
I read your post about Newman the day ...Hi Nita...<br /><br />I read your post about Newman the day you posted it...but just didn't (no, couldn't) leave a message at the time. My heart was breaking for what you were going through in the loss of your beloved Newman. I can't imagine what it must be like to lose a pup.<br /><br />My hubby and I have 3 pups - 3, 2 & 1 year olds - Maltese (m), Havanese (m) and Toy Poodle (f).<br /><br />What I did do was make a mental note of all the information you shared as to what had happened to Newman and all that your Vet had to say. I always pay attention to information that could possibly, one day be of help to one of my dogs or the dog of a friend.<br /><br />Tonite, a Facebook friend posted that her mini-dachshund was having troubles breathing after hitting herself on the dash of their vehicle, when dad had to slam on the breaks on Thursday night. She just wants to sit with her mom and dad...and my friend wondered if she could have had some injuries from the "accident". I immediately thought of Newman and raced to your blog for the shortcut to your post. I just sent it to her and posted it on her FB page.<br /><br />You AND Newman could potentially save another pup's life with the info in your post. Just wanted to let you know.<br /><br />~Blessings to you...<br />JanGonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08928460355403104172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518721847478228439.post-32072407978191026652011-09-04T06:27:13.777-05:002011-09-04T06:27:13.777-05:00I just found your blog while reading another, Newm...I just found your blog while reading another, Newman's face just captured my attention. I am so sorry and my heart goes out to you as only a dog parent who has ever lost a furry best friend can to another. You are not alone, there are many of us out here who know exactly what you are going through and honestly you never "get over it" but it does get a bit easier. In the beginning I was filled with anger at the world because it kept spinning when mine had come to a complete stand still, now, I still cry and wish I could kiss my Bear in that special place above his nose between his eyes. To this day I can still smell that sweet furry scent and feel his soft fur but it's in the disguise of a former homeless and probably abused black and white Pointer named Ellie, a little sister that never got to meet her big brother. But I'm sure he had something to do with her coming into our lives. :)<br /><br />Please don't blame Sally, as one of the comments said, she's scared and sad. Dogs will do what they do, we will never completely understand their world. She does not know what your anger towards her is about, remember, they don't think like we do, she has already moved on. Don't ignore her or send anger her way when you're around her. Take a page from the book of the world of dogs, forgive her and give her a big hug, because that's what she would do for you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518721847478228439.post-38264864170679046522011-09-03T12:02:08.776-05:002011-09-03T12:02:08.776-05:00... i was thinking about you today....and wonderin...... i was thinking about you today....and wondering how you are.....<br /><br /><br />sending love and best wishes for a comforted heart...<br /><br />kary and teddy<br />xxMy Farmhouse Kitchenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00594238190107766755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518721847478228439.post-64871513035221469412011-09-02T10:03:40.110-05:002011-09-02T10:03:40.110-05:00Nita, I am so so sorry. My heart just breaks for y...Nita, I am so so sorry. My heart just breaks for you.<br />Hugs,<br />DeniseNoble Vintagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07734369835594191830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518721847478228439.post-37060536112444393052011-09-01T23:19:21.119-05:002011-09-01T23:19:21.119-05:00Nita, This was such a beautiful post. I know Newma...Nita, This was such a beautiful post. I know Newman was not just a pet, he was a member of your family. We have a cat cemetery in our back yard and each little grave is marked with a cat statue. The statues all have wings on the cat figure and the name and dates on them. Everytime I go to the back yard I stop and tell them how much I love them and miss them. That might sound goofy to some, but it makes me feel better. I took a long time for me to be able to do that. It will take a long time for you to get use to Newman being out there, but when you do you will be thankful that he is still close. We talk about our cats and all the funny things they did. It is those memories that will be so special to you. Hugs.BKWilliamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10283329428182139546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518721847478228439.post-5374837958700296612011-09-01T22:52:01.403-05:002011-09-01T22:52:01.403-05:00I'm very sorry for your loss Nita. As an anima...I'm very sorry for your loss Nita. As an animal lover I understand your sadness. Paws of the Heart is a lovely site, there is lots of good info there about dealing with pet loss.<br /><br />http://www.pawsoftheheart.com/pages/1/index.htm<br /><br />Sending hugs.Favourite Vintage Findshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12206347575443091517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518721847478228439.post-62070284776081263722011-09-01T21:49:50.358-05:002011-09-01T21:49:50.358-05:00PS. That talk of not blaming yourself was NOT me ...PS. That talk of not blaming yourself was NOT me just blowing smoke at you... I did the same thing to myself, counted all the things I could have done differently that would have saved his life - but really, it wouldnt have. And nothing I thought or said or felt guilty about changed anything any way. Then someone convinced me that God planned it that way, and at some point, I believed it. You might have saved Newman a lot of pain in and out of tests and/or procedures at the vet that wouldnt have changed anything. You just never know. Everything happens for a reason. Please, just don't blame yourself, just miss him, and love him, and heal with time. Oh, I just wish I could hug you right now. :(Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11936405390121535135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518721847478228439.post-54249991524206561242011-09-01T21:45:49.667-05:002011-09-01T21:45:49.667-05:00Oh my God, Nita, I have been out of town and just ...Oh my God, Nita, I have been out of town and just read this post. I wish I could be there to hug you and not let go. But heavens, woman, I want to hit you over the head with a baseball bat until you stop being upset at yourself - God does everything for a reason, and this was meant to be - painful YES, but meant to be nonetheless, and you are not to blame. This is heartbreaking enough without guilt. I just adore you, and refuse to let you do that. :(<br /><br />One last thing - you mentioned Halloween, which you and I bonded over for sure - and I want you to know that I became obsessed with Halloween props after Jayson and I lost a baby boy several years ago. I refused to talk about it or even think about it, but used prop building to get through it. Find something to help you over the horrible tide of grief - I hope you can. <br /><br />Know that you will be in my thoughts and prayers constantly, for both you and your family, your cousin. Just have faith, love, stay strong (or at least upright). Much, much love to you, -DawnAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11936405390121535135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518721847478228439.post-7496297703987062262011-09-01T19:54:48.265-05:002011-09-01T19:54:48.265-05:00Dear Nita,
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. ...Dear Nita,<br />I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Newman was sounds like one very special boy. I pray you will find comfort in today's daily devotional today at Joni Eareckson Tada. <br />http://www.joniandfriends.org/daily-devotional/<br />I am not sure if you are familiar with Joni, but she is an evangelical christian author, a very wonderful lady. I really think you would find comfort in knowing her story and her books. I remember reading in one of her books (I think on heaven) about seeing our animals in heaven. <br />I hope this will be a comfort to you.<br />AngelaAngelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11308146340378496621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518721847478228439.post-59875952339600510582011-08-31T23:44:05.341-05:002011-08-31T23:44:05.341-05:00This is such a heart-breaking post and I'm so ...This is such a heart-breaking post and I'm so sad for you. I am also a pet-lover and our family poodle died in my mom's arms. My parents buried her in the backyard, too. They vowed never to have another pet because their hearts were so broken over losing the last one. Our hearts must go on - no other will replace those little sweetie pies - I'm so sorry for your loss and will pray for comfort and healing. God blessAngelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16054208518242251116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518721847478228439.post-70532575325886357492011-08-31T18:22:08.963-05:002011-08-31T18:22:08.963-05:00Time will heal your heart. Newman was a wonderful...Time will heal your heart. Newman was a wonderful boy for sure and although it was not in your plan to have Newman taken away already ....you can be sure it was God's plan. What if our greatest disappointments our God's mercies in disguise....from the song 'Blessings' by Laura Story. Love, ~amyAmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01224808618141191730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518721847478228439.post-7640513624235939512011-08-31T16:56:29.735-05:002011-08-31T16:56:29.735-05:00I've never visited before, but after reading y...I've never visited before, but after reading your story I have to say how sorry I am for your loss. No words will make any difference, you'll just know so many are so sorry and hope your better soon. Thoughts and prayers for you. Take care........<br /><br />~Emily<br />The French HutchThe French Hutchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10028597144785773804noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518721847478228439.post-18768570892998563362011-08-31T16:54:54.542-05:002011-08-31T16:54:54.542-05:00Rituals. Rituals will help. Talk to Newman. Take h...Rituals. Rituals will help. Talk to Newman. Take him for walks. Dream about him at night. Write poems to him. Sing songs to him. Include him in your daily life. He's always with you that way, and you'll never forget him. Ever. He was your pet,and you were his human. And he loved you just as much as you loved him. That kind of energy doesn't go away when someone dies, it just changes. Take your time to heal.Mary MGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13650783844271364216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518721847478228439.post-15988594278877328872011-08-31T14:18:54.973-05:002011-08-31T14:18:54.973-05:00I love you and I am so sad and sorry you lost your...I love you and I am so sad and sorry you lost your dog, I had to put mine down a year ago and I still cry. I have a new wonderful baby now and I hope she out lives me.Richard from My Old Historic House.Richard Cottrellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13055636542951753310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518721847478228439.post-69253293609870699402011-08-31T13:41:40.624-05:002011-08-31T13:41:40.624-05:00I can't read all of your post because i'm ...I can't read all of your post because i'm crying already.<br /><br />I can relate to your lost OMG it's awful I know<br /><br />I lost my little sweet Sissy my pug in april and I can't stop crying over her , I miss her so much<br />my doctor, she said i need another pet , but told her i cried more over sissy than when I husband died and i'm not saying that to put down my husband. my doctor said you are not the first lady to tell me that .<br />Our pets are our loves, cudlers, someone who is never upset with us <br /><br />may comfort come to you soon<br /><br />Janice & Sissy's memroryCurtains in My Treehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04739180504953135365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518721847478228439.post-56225409435832486482011-08-31T13:30:55.011-05:002011-08-31T13:30:55.011-05:00Nita,
I feel as though I'VE just lost the most...Nita,<br />I feel as though I'VE just lost the most wonderful dachshund anyone could ever have. Your tribute to Newman is the kindest and most touching post I've ever read. Here I am at work <br />eyes watering, lump in my throat...God, I feel so sorry for you. I've been out of town recently and super busy at work upon my return that I haven't had a chance to vist blogland. You're the first blog in my favorites bar and at break today I figured I get some lighthearted blog reading in... My heart broke when I started to read your post. Nothing I can say can take away the loss of someone so dear, only time. <br /><br />Four years ago, I dug my pet cat's grave in the backyard and let me tell you, it was no small feat to dig in Vegas soil...I could only manage to get 4 feet deep in two days. I would find myself checking the box to see if my cat might just be faking it. I now take comfort knowing she is back there in her favorite shady spot. It is a lonely feeling, and my Mom would say to write a poem to show how much you cared for your pet. Your post is so heartfelt and warm that you've actually touched many hearts, who all feel for you, and consider you a friend we just haven't met yet.<br /><br />With deepest sympathy, <br />your friend,<br />AdamAdam Hazletthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18118324708789702287noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518721847478228439.post-86468654671051033972011-08-31T11:50:40.379-05:002011-08-31T11:50:40.379-05:00This is the first time I have ever commented here ...This is the first time I have ever commented here before. I am so sick for your loss and reading this was absolutely heart wrenching. I have never raised a dog from a puppy but I imagine it must be just like raising a child. My family dog was killed by a coyote in our backyard six years ago after she had been left out for the night by accident. We will never forgive ourselves for that, and as you know, those are the kinds of things you can't help but think about after the fact....all the things you could have done differently. My mother and I found the evidence the next morning and just stood in our yard screaming and crying, hysterical...the neighbors must have thought we were crazy. There are no words to describe the loss of a pet, but what you have written here comes pretty darn close. I hope you are able to heal from this as much as possible and continue on with your other three babies...they will need you now more than ever as they try to make sense of the loss of their brother. Sending positive vibes and good thoughts your way in this time of sorrow.Emilynoreply@blogger.com